Hi everyone!
Hope you are all well. There's a slight hint in the title to how I'm feeling at the moment. The thing nobody tells you when you find out you are expecting multiples is just how bloody exhausting it is! Even if they did tell you, which I am warning you now, nothing can prepare you for it. Some days every minute drags on as if it is an hour. It's like doing a marathon on your hands and knees.
Why wasn't i warned?!! There's no cure, no quick fix, no other way than to just get used to feeling Tired All The Time. But isn't that just part of parenting? Whether you have twins or triplets or more? There is always something to be done and always something to do.
The only way I have found to deal with this is just to plod through. I think this is my favourite piece of advice with all things relating to twins. You will get through it and it will get easier. Eventually. Even if that day is when they are moved out. It will happen. So just keep going no matter what because it is all worth it in the end. I promise. I know this even though I am nowhere near "the end" there is always a milestone to reach towards. The end of waking up for night feeds, the end of nappies, the end of reflux!
To be honest, you can become lost in the endless household tasks that only get noticed when they don't get done. (Mum where's my clean socks?) It is so important to take time for yourself. When the hell can I do that?! I can hear you asking me. I'll tell you my secret. I've started setting my alarm in the mornings. I never use an alarm because the sound of four children crying and shouting mummy is definitely enough to wake even the heaviest sleeper (somehow apart from my partner but that's another story). I set my alarm for quarter to seven. So I can wake myself up, lie in bed, go down and make myself a cup of tea and watch the news. It may only be fifteen minutes but it's MINE. (And sometimes it's longer!) And I feel so much more prepared for the day.
I'm not saying this will work for everybody. You may be able to do it at night, at lunchtime, at a random time of day, it doesn't matter WHEN it just matters that you do it. Because you matter and those minutes to yourself matter. So when I'm feeling so exhausted and drained I remember I'll have those minutes again and I'll cherish them! So I can cherish my children more.
Till next time
Lauren xx
